They’re your go-to girls, your right hand women, and your sassy sidekicks that have loved and supported you for years. Now your best friends have a new role in your life as your bridesmaids. With this role comes a huge responsibility that can become overwhelming and stressful as it gets closer to the big date. Want to ensure your best friends still love you after the wedding? Here are some tips to keep them happy and involved throughout the planning process:
1. Realize they have a life outside of your wedding
While wedding plans may be constantly on your mind, your maids have a million other things on theirs. Be mindful of their schedules and commitments in their own lives when making appointments or plans that involve their attendance. If it’s truly important for them to be there, try to work around their schedules to find a time that works for everyone. Make it a little easier for them!
2. Help them get to know one another
While all of your bridal party may be special to you, they may not all be special to each other. Try to schedule a couple fun, wedding-free events to break the ice and have everyone mingle. Once they know each other a little bit better, it makes it easier for the girls to communicate throughout the planning process (and have more fun along the way)!
3. Let them know what to expect
Make sure they know before agreeing to be in the bridal party what will be expected of them. Depending on how old your potential bridesmaid may be or where they are professionally can factor into how much time and money they will be able to contribute to their role in the wedding. An older teenager without a full time job who is still in college may not be able to attend the bridal shower and bachelorette party, or be able to afford a bridesmaid gown along with anything they may owe for a gift or to put into the pre-wedding festivities.
4. Ask them what they want to wear
We’ve seen the movies and we’ve heard the horror stories, bad bridesmaid dresses can be a nightmare and a half. Think about it, these girls are spending hundreds of dollars on a dress they may not like, may not feel comfortable in, or may not be able to wear again. Involve them in the dress shopping appointments to hear their insights about which styles are their favorite and a reasonable price range they can afford. At the end of the day they will woman up and wear whatever you choose for them, but it’s always a good idea to keep them in the loop and to keep their needs in mind when making the final decision.
5. Make them feel special
You choose these girls to be in your bridal party for a reason. They’ve been with you through thick and thin and they are so happy to celebrate you on your big day. Why not celebrate them along the way? They are putting in a lot of time to helping you plan, spending a lot of money for wedding-related events and gifts, and they’re showing a lot of love for you and your new spouse. Show them how much you appreciate all they’re doing by picking bridal party gifts they’ll love! You don’t have to break the bank, but sometimes something as simple as a favorite photo of the two of you in a nice frame or a heartfelt note can mean the world.
6. Say thank you!
Shower them in gratitude - let them know how much you appreciate their friendship & all they are doing to help you with your wedding. Your ladies may be having to take time off of work or spend a little bit of money to be involved in your wedding, so it’s important to recognize the sacrifices they may be making throughout the process. Also, you can never be too nice when it comes to thank you’s and showing your gal pals how much you care!
How are you balancing your relationships with your bridesmaids? Share your stories with us in the comments below - we would love to hear from you! For more ideas and inspiration for your bridal party, check out our Pinterest page!